Just What Are You Willing To Put Up With In A Financially Secure Relationship?

Just What Are You Willing To Put Up With In A Financially Secure Relationship?
Written by: Alicia C. McGhee


Women everywhere have or are in the situation of being in a financial secure relationship with a partner whose attention lurks elsewhere besides home. Some women play the denial card hoping that the rumors they hear are just fiction while other women have a sneaky motive of their own. Say for instance, your husband was a pro ball player or entertainer bringing in a multi million dollar income and spends a lot of time on the road with the notorious groupies out to have their way with your man. You know what he does on the road and may have even been slapped in the face with the truth when the affair became publicized, but like a good wife you stayed around with your head held high all for the sake of your man & your unhealthy relationship.

Before reaching your breaking point in the relationship and ready to throw in the towel, you concoct a plan of your own that assures your financial freedom & your independence from the man you once loved who’d disgraced your union & deliberately broken your vows. You start withdrawing money from his account and catching yourself stashing large amounts into a secret account. Just when you’ve taken all you can take from your cheating spouse and are ready to kick rocks, you leave him a Dear John letter and hit the wind. Sounds easy don’t it, but for some it’s easier said than done.

A lot of women put up with a cheating man just to say that they’ve got a man and majority of the time they stick around because it’s convenient to them. Some stay because depending on the lifestyle their man is providing, they’re unwilling to give up the lifestyle that they’ve grown accustomed to living. Loyalty plays a major role in this situation where women feel like they’ve got to stay in their men’s corner all because they’ve invested so many years into the courtship. They feel like if they can’t hold the relationship together, and then they’re failures at maintaining any relationship that comes to them.
I mentioned the convenience factor in my ‘Relationships out of Convenience’ blog and a lot of women are in the predicament where they have no other option that to fall dependent on their man putting them in a convenient situation for them allowing them forms of security from financial to home security. Here are other reasons in why women stay in financially secure relationships with cheating men…..

REASONS WOMEN STAY IN FINANCIALLY SECURE RELATIONSHIP WITH CHEATING MEN
*fear of changing
*low self-esteem
*religious beliefs
*to achieve their career of educational goals

*desire in keeping their family together

*hoping the cheater will change

*insufficient proof of infidelity

*staying for the children

*bad time to leave

*fear of loneliness
*out of love

*financial security

*convenience

*belief that he’ll never cheat again

For the women who’ve left their cheating husbands, a lot of them come back because of their self esteem or ability to stand up for themselves. This right here causes a woman to act blind to the situation or just push it down like it doesn’t matter or either they can be scared of the thought of having to start all over by themselves without their husband’s income. As I mentioned before, majority women stay for financial reasons in fear that they can’t make it on their own or might not like the idea of having their lifestyle & material possessions conflicted on the lacking ability to do for themselves.

Women with children find their selves staying for their children’s’ sake because they feel that its more stable for the children when there’s two parents instead of one. Now I’m sure everyone is aware of Shaquille O’Neal & ex-wife Shaunie O’Neal who he was married to for 5 years. Now throughout that 5 year marriage, Shaq had been a busy boy with countless women; one including the Video Vixen who told it all in her hot page turner Confessions of a Video Vixen. He reportedly tricked off over 40,000 dollars off of Karrine Steffens and purchased an expensive vehicle for his ex former Playboy model Daphne Duplaix before breaking up. Shaunie wasn’t a fool and she had her a plan for that ass, but who knew that the plan would go straight to hell when she got busted creeping with the hired help.

O’Neal claimed that Shaunie had been secretive about her assets particularly with respect to certain properties owned or titled either in her name or other entitles. Not only did he ask for a correct accounting of all moneys, funds, stocks, bonds, & other securities, but he wants her to pay back every damn dime that she extorted from his ass. I know Shaquille had much nerve to feel betrayed, shocked, & a nigga named Paul (appalled) after all the drama and plenty clinic visits he’s taken Shaunie through. I believed that her plan would have and could have been executed properly if she wouldn’t have messed around with the personal trainer so close to home. Not only did that cost her marriage, but it cost her the fortune she was stashing away for herself. So she’s stuck to paying his ass and taking care of all the children while he walks around a free man, So who’s the joke really on? Kobe Bryant wasn’t any different when he cheated on his wife and cheated with the wrong one who decided to blow the whistle to the world back in 03. Here he was in the midst of a sexual assault battle and the public airing of his dirty laundry with his wife looking blank & emotionless. Come to find out, Vanessa Bryant is cool with her husband’s indiscretions and plans to stay by his side till the end. I guess if my husband grossed in 300,000 million dollars from endorsements & a ball contract, I could give a damn who he’s sleeping with as long as my apes are bathed in Louis Vutton and my handbags are over 2,000 dollars.

Vanessa released this statement in support of her husband’s decision in resuming his infidel ways. “I want to thank my husband for his continued loyalty and monogamy during this most difficult time in our lives. His unselfishness has been an inspiration to me and I fully support his decision to resume cheating on me on a regular basis. I just hope he gets the girl’s permission this time.” So with that said, I’m sure you know the answer to why she’s still around? As long as he’s Kobe Bryant and still making money like he’s been making it, her ass we’ll stay by his side, and who’s to say that she wasn’t doing or isn’t doing her own thing on the side?


So I ask all my ladies what you would put up with in a financially secure relationship and do you feel that being financially secure is worth living in a loveless & trustless relationship? While I’m expecting a lot of the I am women hear me roar females to respond back with a hell-2-tha naw on this here, but there’s a female that you know who’s willing to put up with anything for the financial security. So I ask you, are you one of them?